Is it Okay to Flirt Your Way to Success?

Many of the most famous women in the world become successful through their flirty ways but is it okay to flirt your way to success instead of going down the traditional route of hard work?

Some would say that being flirty is a fulltime job, especially if you’re not naturally gifted at it!

Not everyone is comfortable with flirting, making it a no go for the shy people amongst us, so does that leave them at an unfair advantage?

Flirting can work wonders, even if you’re just being overly nice to people you’ll find that they are much more willing to do things for you.

So giving a link wink and a giggle can get you what you want but for how long can it last?

When you’re flirting with a man, of course they’ll warm to you and you’ll find that you’re much more likely to get your own way.

But as we all know, you don’t get something for nothing, so what is it that he is expecting you to do in return?

If there’s nothing in it for him then you’ll find he will soon lose interest, meaning you have to move onto someone else.

This won’t just leave you with a massive reputation, but eventually you’ll be left with no one to socialize with in the work place.

Men love a flirt at first but when they see you’re trying your luck with anyone who walks past you, they’ll think you’re cheap.

And women, well every woman judges other women daily whether they have the reason to or not, and we all know how much women hate flirty women, right?

Don’t get the wrong idea, a little flirt every now and again is healthy, but when you’re doing it simply to get what you want and go to where you want to be then pretty soon you’ll find the act wears thin!


Cheating: What They Don’t Know Won’t Hurt Them?

The sad reality is that many people in relationships will cheat at some point or another, whether it be a drunken kiss or a full-blown affair.

The question is, do you tell your partner about the affair once it’s finished or do you keep tight-lipped?

If you’ve been having an affair which ended, for whatever reason, surely it has to be better to tell your partner?

I have been debating the topic all afternoon and have concluded that these situations always have a way of airing themselves eventually, so why not tell them yourself and be clear that you did the right thing in the end.

“Affairs always come out, and it is better that it came from you and not someone else.”And you wouldn’t be able to handle the guilt eating away at you.

But then would there necessarily be any guilt? You had an affair, presumably because there was something missing from your relationship,and now the affair has ended because you relationship is back on track.

Could one argue that there is little to feel guilty about and that an affair could have actually helped your marriage rather than hindered it?

A Friend of mind said said this,… “Depending on the situation, if I wasn’t happy in the relationship then yes because it would be away out. If I was still in love and wanted to give it a go then I wouldn’t say anything, but would deal with the consequences.”

Despite this, she also said that if it was the other way around, she would appreciate the honesty but never take them back which i agreed with.

So the big question still stands….should we cheat on our spouses,when things are not smooth or talk or work it out? I think the best answer is to try and work things out,,,,Do those little things you did to win her or his heart and communicate more,it helps if you both share your feelings,what you like and what you don’t like….

The most important thing in a relationship is HONESTY…….


Love Quotes Love is the flower of life, and blossoms unexpectedly and without law, and must be plucked where it is found, and enjoyed for the brief hour of its duration.

Put your hand on a hot stove for a minute, and it seems like an hour. Sit with a pretty girl for an hour, and it seems like a minute. THAT’S relativity.
~Albert Einstein Quotes~

To love is to receive a glimpse of heaven.
~Karen Sunde~

Love without return is like a question without an answer.

Of all forms of caution, caution in love is perhaps the most fatal to true happiness.
~Bertrand Russell~

There is more hunger for love and appreciation in this world than for bread. |
~Vincent Van Gogh~

Falling in love consists merely in uncorking the imagination and bottling the common sense.
~Helen Rowland~

Life is to be fortified by many friendships – to love and be loved is the greatest happiness of existence.
~Sydney Smith~

When we find someone whose weirdness is compatible with ours, we join up with them and fall into mutually satisfying weirdness – and call it love – true love “
~Robert Fulghum~

It is better to break one’s heart than to do nothing with it.”
~Margaret Kennedy~

Love is life. And if you miss love, you miss life.
~Leo Buscaglia~

Immature love says, I love you because I need you. Mature love says, I need you because I love you.
~Erich Fromm~

You come to love not by finding the perfect person, but by seeing an imperfect person perfectly.
~Sam Keen~

Love sought is good, but given unsought is better
~William Shakespeare~

The only love worthy of a name is unconditional.
~John Powell~

We can only learn to love by loving.
~Iris Murdoch~

Love is being stupid together.
~Paul Valery~

The way I imagine a deep soul connection, love picks you and your partner. The soul part of soul mate is the depth of the connection. It goes beyond reason and control and seems to be ordained by fate.
~Thomas Moore~

Hard To Believe It Might Be, But I Was Once A Bus Conductor – Nollywood Actor

He is one of the most attractive faces in Nollywood. He has charmed his way into the hearts of many with his good looks and acting skills.

The Kogi born actor has done enough to earn him a star status in Nollywood, but his role as co-presenter in MTN Project Fame West Africa shone the spotlight on Benjamin.

Joseph Benjamin was on Inspiration FM yesterday with Wana Udobang on the show ‘Talk About It’ when he disclosed the rough roads he had to travel before becoming who he is today.

“I’ve moved from being a bus conductor, security guard, waiter, worked in a Bakery, sold shoes at Balogun; then moved into IT before acting.”

People’s feedback on twitter showed how inspired they were with his story as he continued giving tips on how goals could be achieved.

“Keep improving your craft. Nourish that which you have. Be your own inspiration!”

Speaking on start-up businesses, Benjamin had this to say; ”Understand your market before you decide what you want to do.”

Facts: Actual Things Men Go Through In Life..

The ladies will always blab a lot about womanhood. Now read this and see what men GO through in Life

1). You work your entire life making money just to get a wife.

2). You have to act tough no matter your fears.

3). After buying a ring you’ll need to beg a woman to confirm whether you get married or not.

4). You spend millions to make your wedding a success and your wife takes the glory.

5). You work extra hours after marriage.

6). You give money for house keeping + food stuffs and you get to eat only dinner [busy men only]

7). No matter the degree you’ve acquired in education, You lose your worth if you fail to perform in bed {SMH}

8). You work hard to make properties just to make a will for your wife and children

9). You spend your hard earned money to take your children to school and when they grow up they celebrate mothers’ day……

Even after all these, women are still not satisfied and that brings me to this question “WHAT EXCATLY DO WOMEN WANT”

Top 10 Things Women Love To Hear

Do you sometimes find yourself struggling to find the right things to say to the lady in your life? If there’s one thing that has always kept men wondering about women, it has to be figuring outwhat they love to hear. Whether you are in a committed relationship or wanting to take your relationship to the next level, here are 10 phrases that women never get sick of hearing.

1. “You’re very smart.”

Women want to be appreciated for their intelligence. By acknowledging her intelligence, you’re communicating that you recognize her brains and not just her figure.

2. “You are the most beautiful woman I know.”

Aside from making her feel aesthetically superiorto other women, this remark will put her on a pedestal among her peers and give her an ego boost. She’ll feel good about herself and will also feel less threatened by other women when they are around you. This phrase is particularly effective in long-term relationships, as you’re assuring your woman that she’s still hot.

3. “You’re my best friend.”

Want to assure her that you are the kind of man who’s not just with her for her looks? All you need to do is to tell her that she is not just the love of your life, but also your best friend. Telling her how you feel above and beyond a s*xual context will make her feel overpoweringly connected to you.

4. “I am so proud of you.”

Telling your woman how proud you are of her forworking hard to achieve her goals and showing your loving support will make her heart melt.

5. “You’re perfect just the way you are.”

This statement says that you’ve accepted her completely. Giving her an ego boost like that makes her feel cognizant about how much you openly and willingly accept her flaws.

6. “I don’t want to be with anyone else.”

This expression of enduring commitment says that she has become an essential, indispensable ingredient in your life and that you couldn’t live without her. This is a heavy line; it’s not many degrees away from proposing to her, so only saythis if you truly mean it.

7. “What do you feel/think about [anything]?”

Women love to express their feelings on every topic imaginable. Asking this question tells your lady that you respect her views and that you’re genuinely concerned about her feelings and opinions.

8. “How was your day?”

Asking about her day assures that you’re willing to lend her your pair of ears and focus on what she has to say.

9. “You’re great in bed.”

Praising her performance in bed makes her feel like she really knows how to satisfy you and indicates that you appreciate her performance between the sheets.

10. “I love you.”

Few men realize or appreciate the power of saying “I love you.” By saying those three magic words (when you really mean it), you’re acknowledging an attachment to your woman and satisfying her most basic emotional need to know how her man feels about her and to hear it but abuse the words.
Remember – saying this just to smooth over mistakes or as a precursor to every word out of your mouth won’t fill her with delight. Sometimes it’s not just about the words from a man’s mouth, it is also about showing your love through your actions.

10 Mistakes Men Make In Bed – A Must Read For All Men

Just as men sometimes tell their buddies the gory details of their sex lives, women will often make their relationships the focal point of their conversations on girls’ night out.

Lucky for you, I have turned this potentially terrifying prospect to your advantage. Below are 10 of the most common mistakes men make during sex, taken directly from the ladies’ mouths, and how to fix them. So read on and make sure that you aren’t turning your woman off without even realizing it.

1- Not setting the scene

I realize that you aren’t necessarily a set designer, but seducing your woman will be a heck of a lot easier if your pad provides her with a comfortable and inviting atmosphere. That means no dirty laundry or empty pizza boxes on the floor, and no strange house guests on your couch.
So, tidy up a bit, dim the lights, put on some nice mood music, and pour her a glass of wine. Just make sure not to go overboard and turn your place into a Bond-like sex haven, with curtains that close with a remote, strategically angled lighting, and a mini-bar complete with ice machine built into the wall, or she will bolt before you can offer her a martini.

2- Skipping foreplay all the time

At one time or another, we’ve all experienced a moment so passionate that wasting time on foreplay was unthinkable — and if you haven’t yet, you should. However, getting caught up in the heat of the moment is quite different from pouncing on her out of nowhere, and cutting straight to the chase on a regular basis.
Sometimes, she needs a little appetizer before the main course. Something as simple as a lustful caress, a sensual kiss or a suggestive whisper in her ear, followed by a come-hither look, can mean the difference between a night she will never forget and one she will want to forget as soon as possible.

3- Moving too fast

You practiced restraint during dinner when she was sitting across from you in that low-cut dress, giving you those eyes and flashing you that smile. You practiced restraint in the car on the way to your place, as her dress was hiking up ever so slightly, showing off her toned thighs. You even controlled yourself while you were sitting next to one another on your couch, and she was absent-minded touching your knee, and looking away whenever you caught her giving you that look. So, why blow it in bed? Practicing restraint in bed will only get her hotter, making her want you even more, and will inevitably lead to a mind-blowing sexual experience for both of you. So learn to pace yourself and enjoy everything the moment has to offer. Trust me, you’ll both be happy you did.

4- Ignoring her body language

Do you pay enough attention to her body language or disrespect her without meaning to? Although a woman may initially be too shy to tell you exactly what she wants in bed, her body language will give her away. It is up to you to pay attention to her telltale signs until she is comfortable enough with you to really open up verbally. So don’t treat her like a blow-up doll and have your way with her (unless, of course, she has specifically asked you to do so).
Try to notice how she responds to your touch and react accordingly. If you sense that she is tensing up when you touch her or try to move her body in a certain way, it could be that you are being too rough or that she is ticklish, so be more gentle. If, on the other hand, she seems completely unaffected by your caresses, it’s time to turn up the volume and shake things up a bit.

5- Wanting to try too many things at once

Most women have an adventurous side and are willing to try new things in bed once they trust their lover enough. But, if you ever want her to reach that point with you, the last thing you should do is force the issue too soon into the relationship. Doing so may blow your chances of her ever considering the idea again.
Try to introduce new positions and reveal fantasies slowly but surely, starting with the tamer requests and working your way up to the racier ones. This way, there’s no telling how far you can go.

6- Disrespecting her

Despite what you see in porno movies and, to a lesser extent, on MTV, women don’t particularly want to be disrespected in bed. Although they might go along with it to please you at first, doing so may eventually cause them to feel uncomfortable, and even resentful. So make sure that before you call her any derogatory names, engage in rough play or release on her, that you have her wholehearted consent. If you are really into these sorts of things, make sure that you’re with a woman who is too, and be sure to run your fantasies by her beforehand to gauge her reactions, and not just spring them on her in bed where she may not quite know how to react.
Don’t assume she’s satisfied.

7- Being too bossy

While communicating your preferences is important, so is going with the flow and doing what feels right. So, don’t bark out orders like a drill sergeant and expect her to comply without question. s*x is supposed to be fun and free, not unpleasant and stressful. Rather than being clinical with directions, try soft-spoken requests, communicating your desires with your eyes (for romantics only), or gently moving her body into the appropriately accommodating position and seeing her reaction. Such approaches will yield much more favorable results than the commando approach.

8- Forgetting her erogenous zones

The fact that you’re probably fascinated with a nice pair of knockers practically ensures that you will rarely forget to fondle a woman’s breasts during s*x. Unfortunately, it is easy to forget that a woman’s body is full of less obvious erogenous zones. Next time you’re in bed with your woman, try kissing her collar bone, where her shoulder meets her neck, gently running your fingers along her back, caressing and kissing her hips, or teasing the soles of her feet. Doing so will surely give her goose bumps and drive her crazy, and she will undoubtedly want to please you in return.

9- Assuming she’s satisfied

Just because you got off, that doesn’t mean that she’s satisfied. Remember that there is another person there with you who would also like to bask in that afterglow. At least make an effort to please her.
Look at it this way: If she is just as satisfied as you, she will likely be too spent for “pillow talk” and want to take a nap with you. So, get to it.

10- Bailing afterwards

While wanting to hit the hay after great sex is perfectly understandable, and often the natural thing to do, taking off on a woman after having sex with her is among the most rotten things a guy can do. Not only do you look like a jerk, but just think about how she’s left feeling. If you can’t stand a woman enough to spend the night with her and not bail on her before sunrise, then you’ll have to deal with the aftermath (she’ll tell all her friends). At least spend 30 minutes talking to her before you split. Or, you can always opt to sleep with a chick you could bear looking at after you release.

Be an amazing lover.If you can steer clear of the aforementioned behavior, and try to follow my handy advice instead, you are headed toward being the kind of lover that attracts women like magnets and keeps them coming back for more. That is what you want, isn’t it?